Hey guys it is Casey back here again in English as you have come to expect where today I am simply writing a review of what we have been doing in English this past week which is being assertive in a variety of situations. So anyway, all I have to do is answer the following questions in being assertive in conversation.
What are the four types of behavioral responses, and what does each mean (in your own words)?
Passive/ being quiet throughout the entire conversation, never explaining your ideas or responding to others.
Aggressive/Actively being mean to others in the conversation by using various insults directed at a certain figure to get your own way with little regard for the other persons well being.
Indirect/ not directly dealing with the situation yourself but having someone else do it for you.
Assertive/explaining your ideas while also respecting the others ideas
What is the definition of Assertive Communication?
Assertive communication is talking in a way that gets your ideas across while also respecting the ideas of the other person
What are the three ‘describes’? When should you use them?
The situation/being specific and objective while also focusing on behavior and not motives./ when you need to act professional
Feelings/using "I" statements and focusing on positive feelings while not trying to be too emotional./ when you are trying to get your point across to anyone who is listening
What changes you want/being specific but reasonable and stating your course of action politely but firmly./ when you are trying to get people to help your course of action and not work against it.
List and explain 5 of the ‘Assertive Communication Tools’. Think of your own example for each.
1."I" statements, truly express how you feel about what has been presented
2.Think we as well as me, think about the others around you and their ideas and not just your own.
3.Be positive, do not act sad or depressed but be upbeat with the situation
4.Thank them, Thank them for contributing their ideas about the situation.
5.Go for agreement, Make people want to agree with your ideas
List and explain in your own words 3 barriers to assertive communication.
Culture/ different cultures can have different ways of doing things than yours
Gender/ certain genders are stereotyped to be better at certain stuff than the other
Age/ their is a general idea that if you are older than you hold more authority than someone who is younger
What does assertive communication look like?
Assertive communication is explaining your ideas while also being polite and considering others ideas
What does assertive communication sound like?
Being very firm but polite about the situation
What does it mean to act like a scratched record when it comes to your boundaries?
Acting like a scratched record means that you just constantly repeat your opinion on the situation at hand no matter how many times that person tries to convince you otherwise.
Think back to a time when you or a friend used a behavioral response that was not assertive.
What type was it? What did you say? What happened as a result? What could you have done differently?
Most of the conversations that I have with my friends are always very assertive and very rarely
are they not assertive but we always reconcile shortly afterwards and I think I have the potential to
keep that up for quite a while so there is really not much we can do all that differently
Reflect on your behavioral responses until now. How do you usually respond to tricky situations?
Do you want to change the way you respond, moving forward? What will you try to remember in the future when difficult situations arise?
I am usually very passive in these sort of situations unless I have an idea that I think needs to be
heard and I am very much assertive when that time comes. I don't think I will be changing my way of
communication anytime soon though.
